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- Hello and welcome to the
Knolshare With Dr. Dave Podcast. I am Dr. Dave Cornelius, your host.

We are continuing the series, "Resiliently You," to discover what makes people resilient to build high-performing organizations and sense belonging and healing.

We're streaming from the Agile for Humanity January 2023 virtual meetup. The topic today is creating Your 2023 Visioning Journey Map.

I invite you to visit the Agile for Humanity website to experience creating your 2023 Visioning Journey Map. That's www.AgileF-O-RHumanity.org.

Okay, awesome.

So, you know, where we're
gonna kick off today is this...

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We're gonna kick off by
just doing a check-in.

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This comes from, and I don't
know why I'm spacing on this,

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but core protocols.

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This is one of the core protocols
called check-in, checkout.

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And I like using this
format because it's fun

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and it's simple and it's
easy for people to follow.

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So why don't we go and, we're agilists

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so just whoever wants
to go first, go first,

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and then the first person then popcorns

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and calls someone else

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and then down the line like that.

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So who wants to start?

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- Oh, I can go first.

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- [Dr. Dave] There you go.

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- So yeah, checking in.

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My name is Adrian Terry.

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One thing I'm grateful for is

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another opportunity to learn

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how I can make a difference.

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And why?

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That's just really important to me

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to know that I am making an
impact, even if it's small.

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That's just really important to me.

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And then I am in--

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- And then everyone else
gets to say, welcome.

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- Welcome.

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- [Dr. Dave] Oh, Patrick, welcome.

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All right, who wants to go next?

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Who are you gonna check next, Adrian?

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- Let's go with Cheryl.

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- [Cheryl] Thank you, Adrian.

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My name's Cheryl.

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I am grateful for this community

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and the timeliness of this opportunity.

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I saw the title and I'm like,

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I need exactly that thing

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and I know Dr. Dave can deliver it.

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So happy to be here.

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Why?

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Because I've got, like we do,

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I got some struggles that
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and I think a new perspective

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will maybe help me think through

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some of the challenges that I got.

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And I am in.

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- Welcome.

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- [Cheryl] Thank you, Dave.

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Come on, Adrian.

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Come on.

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You've got to welcome people in, Patrick.

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- I was muted, sorry.

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My timing was terrible on that.

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(laughing)

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This is why I was always
at the back of the choir.

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So sorry.

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- [Cheryl] And that leaves Patrick.

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- Okay, I'm Patrick Taiwo.

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Just glad to, I guess, mingle
again with brilliant minds.

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I'm always, I guess,
stuck in Dr. Dave anyway,

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so he can't get rid of me.

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But other than that, it's a new year.

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I'm trying to just keep
learning and keep sharing

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and keep meeting great people.

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And I guess that's it, Dr. Dave.

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I guess I send it to you, although--

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- Well, you've got to
let us know, are you in?

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- I'm in.

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I checked in.
- [Dr. Dave] Okay, welcome.

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- [Cheryl] Welcome.
- [Adrian] Welcome.

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- [Patrick] Thank you.

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- Hey, this is Dr. Dave, and
one thing I'm grateful for

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is Martin Luther King.

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I'm grateful for all of the speeches,

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for all of the recordings that's
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And you say, well why,
why do I care about that?

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Well, because it gives me an opportunity

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to learn from a great leader.

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And that's important to me.

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And I am all in.

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- Welcome.
- [Patrick] Welcome.

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- [Adrian] Welcome, welcome, welcome.

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- Thank you.

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So I'm gonna try something today.

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I wrote a spoken word
called Resiliently You,

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and I'm gonna try to recite it.

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And this is the very first time

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that I've done this
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And so if you just bear
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just allow me to read this.

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So Resiliently You.

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I am awakened by morning dew.

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Drip, drop, dripping on my rooftop.

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I arise to a new day
with opportunities new.

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The rooster sings a melody
that is my alarm clock.

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Ticking, tick-tock.

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Cock-a-doodle-doo.

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Gotta make a move.

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Got up and smiled with the morning sun.

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The sun smiled back.

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It is my time to meditate,
take a walk or a run.

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Si puedo, yes I can.

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Self-care energizes
mind, body, and spirit.

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I pondered, if I don't
care for myself, who will?

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If I don't cheer for my
mind-full-ness, who will?

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If I don't dare to risk and
lift my stature, who will?

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If you thrive in the night hours

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and not in the early hours
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No two humans are exactly alike.

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You are wonderfully made
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with unique gifts that are
based on your own uniqueness.

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There will be times of struggles.

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There will be moments to juggle.

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This, that, and the
other and even bubbles.

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But the weight of troubles
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With hands wide open, be
ready to receive wise lessons.

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A rising tide lifts all boats.

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Lift up your brothers and
sisters so we are all elevated.

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Go toward goodness.

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Share with kindness, so we
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When we walk through the valley

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filled with shadows and
death, we're not afraid.

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The great I AM is our
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With clarity of vision
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The blind spots do not make me feel numb.

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I have lived through
COVID and I'm still here.

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Through oppression and microaggressions,

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and I've thrived without fear.

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You can't hold a blessed
man, woman, they down.

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There are more gifts
to come and go around.

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So I'm asking everyone
to get off your mic,

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I want to hear you,

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and I want you to recite this with me.

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Come on, Adrian, Cheryl,

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I want to hear you recite this with me.

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So, let's say this together.

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I am valuable.

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- [Everyone] I am valuable.

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- [Dr. Dave] I am resilient.

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- [Everyone] I am resilient.

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- I sense belonging.

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- [Everyone] I sense belonging.

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- I am working on healing.

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- [Everyone] I am working on healing.

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- I will praise the resiliently you in me

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and the resiliently me in you.

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- [Everyone] I will praise
the resiliently you in me

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and the resiliently me in you.

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- Ubuntu, I see you.

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- [Everyone] Ubuntu, I see you.

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- Ubuntu, I value you.

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- [Everyone] Ubuntu, I value you.

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- Ubuntu, you are enough.

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- [Everyone] Ubuntu, you are enough.

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- [Dr. Dave] Well, thank you.

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Thank you for indulging me,

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for allowing me to share that spoken word

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with you in this forum.

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I know Patrick wants to talk about Ubuntu.

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I know he's gonna do this
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Tell us, Patrick.

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Come on, tell us.

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- No, I understand it as much as you do.

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I mean, it's basically about
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and it's a very powerful
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because it hits all the
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It basically speaks to your inner self,

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that says, if I love my fellow man

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and treat him with respect,

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I will get the same back
and we will all be okay.

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And I think it's one of the things

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that is beginning to disappear,

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especially in our society today.

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I mean, the last few years have been scary

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and it's getting worse.

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And that's what's making
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And not just getting worse,
it's spreading around the world.

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And that's the aspect of it I don't get.

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It's spreading around the world

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at a quicker rate than
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So where do we end up,
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How does it all end?

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- Well, let's start with Ubuntu, right?

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And if we continue to encourage that,

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then the collective,

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we'll figure out where the end is

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or what the when looks like for us.

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So good.

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Hey, I want to celebrate MLK.

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So one of the things that I did today

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is looking at belonging and healing.

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But I wanted to look at
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from Dr. King's vision, right?

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So one of the things that I
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and some of the things that
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When the architects of our republic

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wrote the magnificent
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and the Declaration of Independence,

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they were signing a promissory note

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to which every American
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We're supposed to inherit this.

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And he's talking about,

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this is a promissory note for all men,

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women and others, right?

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Will be guaranteed the
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liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

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this is a sense of belonging, right,

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that he's talking about.

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So I wanted to share that,

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that even when we're working
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We could have belonging there, right?

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So we all just continue
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and take this with us into the workplace,

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into our community, with our friends,

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even with ourselves, right?

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So this is a really powerful statement

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when I looked at it from his context

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and a sense of belonging,

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but also I looked at it
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What was MLK talking about

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when he was talking about healing?

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And one aspect that I talk
about in my book is forgiveness.

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Forgiveness is hard work, right?

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It's really hard stuff to do,

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but it's really important

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that we learned to work
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belonging and healing.

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I think these two elements
are cornerstones even for DEI

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and for building great communities, right?

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Of high performing teams.

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So I'm just looking at his word.

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He says,

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forgiveness does not mean
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or putting a false label on
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It means, rather, that the evil act

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no longer remains as a
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Back to Ubuntu, Patrick, right?

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We're putting that stuff away

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and we're saying that forgiveness
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it is a permanent attitude.

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So looking as we're walking into MLK Day

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and we're celebrating his
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I wanted to bring healing

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and belonging from his lens, right?

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I mean, any thoughts that you guys have

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before we move forward?

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Commentary?

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- Yeah, yeah, I just have
just a quick thought.

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This word forgiveness is powerful stuff.

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It's deep, it's wide.

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There's so much to it.

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I love what you say here
for the individual person.

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It means, rather, the evil act

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no longer remains a barrier
to the relationship.

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So this is when you have been hurt,

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when you have been harmed,

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this is just my personal
context, forgive me,

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but the attitude that I
want to have and maintain

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regarding the other person
that maybe has harmed me

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or done something wrong, right?

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So I can certainly release them

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so that I'm no longer emotionally
impacted by what they did.

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But the whole forgiveness process to me,

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it's designed to bring
about reconciliation.

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So to do that,

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you have to have both
people actively involved.

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So if the other person is
unwilling to be involved,

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this sentence here just tells
me what I can do on my own

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and make sure that I can
continue to heal and grow

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and that I'm no longer impacted by it.

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But that fuller process

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where we have to recognize what happened,

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what was the truth?

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Once the truth is made
available to both of us,

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this is exactly what happened
and this was the impact.

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Then maybe that second step is...

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Hopefully there's some repentance

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on the part of the person
that created the harm.

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And then thirdly,

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maybe it's the reconciliation process

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maybe we could usher in.

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Now, I didn't mean to make a process

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over this whole page or anything,

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but in my mind, that's
just how I'm thinking.

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The difference between what can I do

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from a forgiveness
perspective when it's just me

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and I can't get the other participant

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to play in this process,

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and if the other person
is willing to play,

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then yeah, let's engage

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and let's complete the
process of reconciliation.

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But to me, that's the
power of forgiveness.

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I love the two hearts
here in the upper left,

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but that assumes that
both parties want to play.

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And if the other party
doesn't want to play,

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what can you do on your own?

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So I love what you say here at the bottom.

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Thank you for that.

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- Yeah, thank you, thank you for sharing.

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That's really powerful in terms of how

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we bring belonging and
healing into our lives.

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And it's a really powerful thing

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because just imagine being
at work and you have friction

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and we have friction at work

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and we're gonna step on
each other and bring harm,

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can we bring forgiveness
as a healing tool,

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as a healing practice in our space?

329
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So thanks, Adrian, for
giving some color on that.

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There's another thing that...

331
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African Proverbs, right,

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that says, when you want
to go fast, go alone.

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So when you want to go
far, you go together.

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So this is a well stated African proverb,

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that's part of the whole Ubuntu mindset.

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So when I think about bringing
belonging and healing,

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to me, Ubuntu has to be in
the middle of it, right?

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It has to be a very
important aspect of it.

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So Ubuntu elevates, right?

340
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It helps us to think that
belonging belongs to everyone.

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So it's not just to the people

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who are impacted or traumatized,

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but it's also the people
who are creating harm.

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They need to belong as part
of the process of healing

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so it can be sustained.

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So the image that I've illustrated

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about what Ubuntu really is,

348
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is that I see you, right?

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I am, because we are,
and we value each other.

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And so simple imagery of what Ubuntu is,

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and if it's just a practice

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that we're gonna apply with Ubuntu, right?

353
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So we can really fully
experience belonging and healing

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is that Ubuntu, right, is based on love.

355
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So we're saying that it's
patience and kindness.

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That's what love is, right?

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In it's definition.

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So you're valued.

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We're safety.

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So if we're building things,
our relationship, trust,

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all of those things can be accelerated

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by using this principle.

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The whole aspect of partnership, right?

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Where we can collaborate.

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And then, it's resilience, right?

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How can we deliver value in our mindset

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as we're using Ubuntu,

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as a way to move forward to
get belonging and healing?

369
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So I created an image, right?

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A really futuristic looking image.

371
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I was thinking about
the enterprise, right?

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And what would that look like

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if we brought this into
our organization, right?

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We could see that one of the key things

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that we want at the center, right?

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We want to deliver value.

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So something that's useful
and good to our customers,

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to our people, right?

379
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Are we thinking about this
in an enterprise perspective?

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But to allow that to happen
in a continual fashion, right?

381
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We need belonging and healing.

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So we need Ubuntu and we need healing

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that's sustainable, is resilient.

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And then the whole idea of diversity,

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equity, inclusion, right?

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Diversity where we have
fair representation,

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equity where we're talking about

388
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equal access and inclusion...

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What I'm saying, limit bias

390
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because it's hard to just
get rid of it, but limit bias

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so we could have inclusion as well.

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This gives us an image,

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a picture of how we could
all work well together,

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that we could deliver value

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because that's what
we're doing in companies

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and that's what we're doing
as we work in our community.

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But all of these other
things, the human interactions

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would help to make things
a lot better for us.

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Any comments that showed up for you

400
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after watching this image

401
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and looking at the definition

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that we've brought in here about Ubuntu?

403
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Anything showing up?

404
00:18:20,100 --> 00:18:23,490
- I really like the bottom
image that you have there.

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Deliver value, the different
forms of leadership.

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One approach is when
the leader and the team,

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the followers, rally around
an objective, a goal,

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some strategic theme.

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So in the context of delivering value,

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both the leader and the followers

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can certainly support
driving value forward.

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But what this tells to me is

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what's our overall attitude
as we work towards that end?

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You say it really well
at the top of the page,

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I can go fast by myself
or I with the team,

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we can go really, really far.

417
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So I really appreciate that visual.

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Thank you for that.

419
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- [Dr. Dave] Thank you.

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Any other comments from anyone else?

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Anything that anyone
else would like to add

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00:19:11,010 --> 00:19:13,113
before we jump into the meat?

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Well, everything is the meat.

424
00:19:18,090 --> 00:19:19,560
- That looks great.

425
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I mean, everything meshes
together just right.

426
00:19:24,570 --> 00:19:25,620
- Thank you, Patrick.

427
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So we're gonna get into the work, right?

428
00:19:31,440 --> 00:19:34,740
So this visioning journey map

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is something that I
created in my new book,

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Belonging and Healing.

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And the purpose, why do we care about

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defining a visioning journey map?

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Why is it beneficial, right?

434
00:19:46,800 --> 00:19:49,380
So I'm talking about the clarity

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to your promise and journey, right?

436
00:19:52,860 --> 00:19:53,790
We have a promise.

437
00:19:53,790 --> 00:19:56,302
We make a promise every day
we get up and we go to work.

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Promise to do great,
promise to make money,

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probably to support
ourselves, support our family.

440
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So that's part of the
promise that you're making.

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00:20:04,950 --> 00:20:07,980
So what I'm trying to get
us to do in this new habit,

442
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as opposed to like, here's
my New Year's resolution,

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I'm saying, well, why can't
we be a bit more intentional

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and be a bit more
structured in our approach?

445
00:20:16,950 --> 00:20:18,900
So I have four different steps

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that we have to go through to get there.

447
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And the first one is,

448
00:20:22,500 --> 00:20:25,200
let's think about clear is kind, right?

449
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This is a Brene round topic.

450
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She talks about clear is kind,
unclear is unkind, right?

451
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So I'm using that metaphor

452
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such that we could use a simple
practice call, NLP, right?

453
00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:41,940
Neuro-linguistic programming,

454
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NLP, that we use in the coaching space.

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So there are several steps

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that I'm asking you to think about, right?

457
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As you're trying to think
about your barriers,

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some of your goals, your vision,

459
00:20:54,928 --> 00:20:57,660
occasionally come back here, right?

460
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In number one, it says,

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let me think about how
can we state the outcome

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in positive terms.

463
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Can we ensure the outcome is
within our control, right?

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This is mindset as we're doing this work.

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Be as specific as possible.

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And number four, have a
sensory evidence approach.

467
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So how do we know we
have reached our goal?

468
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Let's measure that, right?

469
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And so number five is
considered a context.

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If I wanted to end up on
Mars next week, as a vision,

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contextually, how do I get there?

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Can I even get there?
I don't know.

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At this point in time.

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Do we have access to resources?

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So we're talking about money.

476
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We're talking about other technologies

477
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as part of our thinking.

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And one of the key things
that I like about this

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is that it talks about

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ensure that the outcome
preserves existing benefits.

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So sometimes we have things

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that are working really
well within our lives.

483
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We don't have to throw that out.

484
00:22:00,120 --> 00:22:01,710
The old term, don't throw

485
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the baby out with the bathwater, right?

486
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That's what this is talking about.

487
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Preserving those existing benefits.

488
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Honor those things.

489
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Because sometimes even when we're...

490
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If we had to do a vision like
this for our company, right?

491
00:22:14,010 --> 00:22:15,300
We don't want to throw away the things

492
00:22:15,300 --> 00:22:16,740
that are generating revenue,

493
00:22:16,740 --> 00:22:19,110
that's generating goodwill
with our customers,

494
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generating a great relationship
with our organization

495
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because we have a new vision
and we're doing a shift, right?

496
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So something to think about.

497
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Check the outcome is ecologically sound,

498
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which is number eight.

499
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So what's the effect on
the wider system, right?

500
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And that wider system could be your home,

501
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your family, your community.

502
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It's something to think about.

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And then number nine is
define the first step.

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So it gives you nine different points

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as you're thinking about your vision.

506
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When we get into this,

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you're thinking about the
hurdles that you may run into,

508
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and finally, what are the goals

509
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and objectives that you have?

510
00:22:57,523 --> 00:23:00,840
So this is the very first
part as a tool, right?

511
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:03,750
And you see it's not, oh, I
have a New Year's resolution.

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Now I need to think
about what my vision is,

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and let's do it for a
short period of time,

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like three months.

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00:23:10,050 --> 00:23:13,470
Now, the other part of this
that we're going through,

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and it's how do we really use
this visioning journey map?

517
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All the imagery and the targets, right?

518
00:23:21,090 --> 00:23:22,452
The hurdles.

519
00:23:22,452 --> 00:23:24,930
So the very first thing, right?

520
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We want to visualize what
this looks like, right?

521
00:23:27,090 --> 00:23:27,970
Okay?

522
00:23:27,970 --> 00:23:29,190
Imagine having this in your home, right?

523
00:23:29,190 --> 00:23:31,530
Or having this in your office.

524
00:23:31,530 --> 00:23:33,210
So you want to start with the end in mind

525
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by creating a vision.

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So you're gonna go to the
very right part of the chart

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00:23:37,500 --> 00:23:41,340
and you're gonna articulate
a vision that you have.

528
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And then, so, I wrote in here,

529
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then we're gonna go to month
three, and we're gonna say,

530
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what is the hurdle that I may encounter?

531
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I'm coming from my vision
back to the present moment.

532
00:23:52,590 --> 00:23:54,810
It's a little bit more challenging
doing it this way, right?

533
00:23:54,810 --> 00:23:56,940
Thinking about, well,
what's gonna go wrong?

534
00:23:56,940 --> 00:23:59,143
What's gonna be my impediment

535
00:23:59,143 --> 00:24:01,560
that I have to think about
at this point in time?

536
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:03,900
And then we go to month
two, month two, and said,

537
00:24:03,900 --> 00:24:06,690
well, what's my second hurdle, right?

538
00:24:06,690 --> 00:24:11,130
And you move on to month one,

539
00:24:11,130 --> 00:24:14,160
and then you write your
hurdle there as well.

540
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,356
Let's just say first hurdle.

541
00:24:16,356 --> 00:24:19,530
Now, when we are in the present, right?

542
00:24:19,530 --> 00:24:20,790
So we started in the past,

543
00:24:20,790 --> 00:24:22,170
we said, here's my vision...

544
00:24:22,170 --> 00:24:23,670
Starting in the future, I'm sorry.

545
00:24:23,670 --> 00:24:27,330
Here's my vision, in month
three, what's the hurdle?

546
00:24:27,330 --> 00:24:29,790
Month two, hurdles, month one, hurdles.

547
00:24:29,790 --> 00:24:32,820
Now, I'm in the present
and I'm going forward.

548
00:24:32,820 --> 00:24:35,670
I said, where am I right now?

549
00:24:35,670 --> 00:24:37,290
Oh, geez, I can't get to Mars.

550
00:24:37,290 --> 00:24:38,520
Okay, cool.

551
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:41,670
So what would I have to do as this goal

552
00:24:41,670 --> 00:24:43,680
in the first month to get to Mars?

553
00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:45,481
Then I go to the second month.

554
00:24:45,481 --> 00:24:46,950
What other goals do I have?

555
00:24:46,950 --> 00:24:49,590
And then I get to the third,
and then I'm at the third goal,

556
00:24:49,590 --> 00:24:51,540
month three, right?

557
00:24:51,540 --> 00:24:53,400
I am at the third goal, right?

558
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:57,063
So you can see, you start
with the future in mind,

559
00:24:58,613 --> 00:25:00,750
come back to the present,

560
00:25:00,750 --> 00:25:04,020
and then you go from the
present back to the future.

561
00:25:04,020 --> 00:25:08,040
It forces you to start
thinking about challenges

562
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:11,550
and getting those things
out there as opposed to,

563
00:25:11,550 --> 00:25:14,910
oh my God, I just ran into
this and this was awful, right?

564
00:25:14,910 --> 00:25:17,075
As you're doing a plan.

565
00:25:17,075 --> 00:25:21,090
So I'm just gonna show
you what that looked like.

566
00:25:21,090 --> 00:25:22,830
I know you're in the mirror board,

567
00:25:22,830 --> 00:25:26,550
so you would start here, my vision,

568
00:25:26,550 --> 00:25:28,110
then I would go to month three and I said,

569
00:25:28,110 --> 00:25:29,400
what are my hurdles?

570
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,680
And then I'll come down to month two,

571
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:32,940
and I said, what are my hurdles?

572
00:25:32,940 --> 00:25:35,400
And then I go to month
one, what are my hurdles?

573
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,010
And then you're gonna
come to my current self,

574
00:25:38,010 --> 00:25:39,180
where I am today.

575
00:25:39,180 --> 00:25:40,860
Then I'm gonna go forward and said,

576
00:25:40,860 --> 00:25:42,870
what are my goals for month one?

577
00:25:42,870 --> 00:25:44,850
What are my goals for month two?

578
00:25:44,850 --> 00:25:46,800
What are my goals for month three, right?

579
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,950
So it goes from the future to the present,

580
00:25:49,950 --> 00:25:51,420
from the present to the future.

581
00:25:51,420 --> 00:25:53,100
A little bit different thinking,

582
00:25:53,100 --> 00:25:56,040
and sometimes it's just hard
for us to think this way,

583
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:59,430
but you guys are gonna
have fun doing this, right?

584
00:25:59,430 --> 00:26:00,810
And then the third thing

585
00:26:00,810 --> 00:26:02,880
we want to think about, let's go deeper,

586
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:03,990
as we're going through this journey.

587
00:26:03,990 --> 00:26:06,870
So not only we're using
this well-formed outcome,

588
00:26:06,870 --> 00:26:09,829
thinking about being positive, measuring,

589
00:26:09,829 --> 00:26:12,750
can we preserve what's good right now?

590
00:26:12,750 --> 00:26:14,730
How is it impacting our system?

591
00:26:14,730 --> 00:26:18,000
We want to also have some
transformational questions

592
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:20,640
as we're going through the journey, right?

593
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:22,410
So as we're going through,
you want to say like,

594
00:26:22,410 --> 00:26:26,463
okay, as I'm facing a
hurdle, who do I need to be?

595
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:30,404
Do I need to be the
tough guy, a tough lady?

596
00:26:30,404 --> 00:26:32,370
Do I have to be the smartest in the room?

597
00:26:32,370 --> 00:26:34,707
Who do I need to be when I'm
dealing with that hurdle?

598
00:26:34,707 --> 00:26:36,156
All right?

599
00:26:36,156 --> 00:26:36,989
And then you go on, you said,

600
00:26:37,860 --> 00:26:40,767
in what ways might seeing
the world as it is limit me?

601
00:26:40,767 --> 00:26:42,660
All right?
This new future.

602
00:26:42,660 --> 00:26:45,150
How is this this gonna
limit me as a person,

603
00:26:45,150 --> 00:26:47,367
as I'm going through this journey?

604
00:26:47,367 --> 00:26:50,310
And you said, who do you get to become

605
00:26:50,310 --> 00:26:52,470
when you have achieved
the goals of the journey?

606
00:26:52,470 --> 00:26:53,910
Who do you want to be, right?

607
00:26:53,910 --> 00:26:55,530
And you can see this big picture.

608
00:26:55,530 --> 00:26:58,290
Are you floating around with
all these different ideas?

609
00:26:58,290 --> 00:27:00,150
And you said, what are
the qualities required

610
00:27:00,150 --> 00:27:04,140
to make you feel satisfied
along the way, right?

611
00:27:04,140 --> 00:27:06,240
So it's looking at the whole person

612
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:07,560
as we're going on this journey.

613
00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:09,330
It's not just like, I have a goal,

614
00:27:09,330 --> 00:27:11,790
but you are a human being
and every human beings

615
00:27:11,790 --> 00:27:14,550
have emotions and we have FOMO,

616
00:27:14,550 --> 00:27:17,010
we have all sort of stuff going on, fair.

617
00:27:17,010 --> 00:27:18,750
And this gets us to start to

618
00:27:18,750 --> 00:27:20,520
think about those things and address them

619
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,170
because they show up in the office,

620
00:27:22,170 --> 00:27:23,280
they show up in our family,

621
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,190
show up in our relationship
with our friends,

622
00:27:26,190 --> 00:27:28,020
and then also, do you
have the support system

623
00:27:28,020 --> 00:27:30,810
you might need as you
continue the journey?

624
00:27:30,810 --> 00:27:32,400
Who will come with us?

625
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,110
Patrick and I have been in this journey

626
00:27:34,110 --> 00:27:36,090
for about two, three years
doing different things.

627
00:27:36,090 --> 00:27:39,180
I mean, I love when he shows
the stuff that we're doing.

628
00:27:39,180 --> 00:27:40,260
Support system.

629
00:27:40,260 --> 00:27:41,093
I mean, I love that.

630
00:27:41,093 --> 00:27:43,047
Cheryl, you were there, Adrian.

631
00:27:43,047 --> 00:27:45,360
And then finally, he said,

632
00:27:45,360 --> 00:27:48,510
why is this vision significant to me?

633
00:27:48,510 --> 00:27:50,730
Why is this important to me, right?

634
00:27:50,730 --> 00:27:55,730
So you could see well formed,
start with the end in mind,

635
00:27:56,520 --> 00:28:00,270
work your goals, the hurdles
from the future to the present,

636
00:28:00,270 --> 00:28:02,820
work your goals from the
present to the future.

637
00:28:02,820 --> 00:28:05,657
Ask yourself these critical questions.

638
00:28:05,657 --> 00:28:07,470
Any questions about...

639
00:28:07,470 --> 00:28:09,060
I know it's a lot to take in

640
00:28:09,060 --> 00:28:11,730
and that's why I have all
the instructions here, right?

641
00:28:11,730 --> 00:28:13,410
So you could play around with it.

642
00:28:13,410 --> 00:28:15,320
And then finally, the
fourth thing we're gonna do

643
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,610
is a debrief, a quick debrief.

644
00:28:17,610 --> 00:28:19,785
So I'm gonna leave some time for us,

645
00:28:19,785 --> 00:28:21,450
that when you finish doing this

646
00:28:21,450 --> 00:28:24,000
and we want to reflect,
relate and remember,

647
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:25,563
what did you discover?

648
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:29,700
Why were these selected
hurdles important to you?

649
00:28:29,700 --> 00:28:30,870
And how will you move forward

650
00:28:30,870 --> 00:28:33,270
with goals beyond that vision, right?

651
00:28:33,270 --> 00:28:35,040
So we want you to also do it.

652
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:36,630
We want to also debrief the session.

653
00:28:36,630 --> 00:28:39,390
If you were doing this by
yourself, you can do...

654
00:28:39,390 --> 00:28:41,640
Matter of fact, as I'm
working with clients,

655
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:45,390
I'm helping them to learn
how to use this tool, right?

656
00:28:45,390 --> 00:28:47,460
To figure out their vision for themselves,

657
00:28:47,460 --> 00:28:50,100
for their teams and
and so on and so forth.

658
00:28:50,100 --> 00:28:55,100
So, any questions before I
get to give us a time box

659
00:28:55,230 --> 00:28:56,283
and you get to play?

660
00:28:59,130 --> 00:29:00,311
- Yeah, a quick question.

661
00:29:00,311 --> 00:29:03,723
And if you said this and
I missed it, forgive me.

662
00:29:04,590 --> 00:29:07,920
How have you carved out our areas

663
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:09,360
of real estate on the board?

664
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,550
Do we need to stay on a
particular color post-it

665
00:29:11,550 --> 00:29:12,750
or how do you want to...

666
00:29:13,710 --> 00:29:15,600
- We're gonna self-organize,
so you choose.

667
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,210
So matter of fact, I am so...

668
00:29:18,210 --> 00:29:19,860
I anticipate that some people

669
00:29:19,860 --> 00:29:21,810
just may want to do it by themselves.

670
00:29:21,810 --> 00:29:26,400
So you have a couple,
but I have at least four.

671
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:28,890
So if you guys want to do a,

672
00:29:28,890 --> 00:29:31,800
each one of you select a
certain area to work in,

673
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:32,760
you could do that.

674
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:35,097
If you choose to work on
the same board, you can,

675
00:29:35,097 --> 00:29:39,990
and you could get, hey, I
have pink or I have blue,

676
00:29:39,990 --> 00:29:42,150
or you could just put your
initials on them, right?

677
00:29:42,150 --> 00:29:44,670
So part of the self organizing practice

678
00:29:44,670 --> 00:29:49,023
that we use a lot in agility,
we're gonna apply that here.

679
00:29:50,010 --> 00:29:50,843
- Forgive me.

680
00:29:50,843 --> 00:29:51,676
Yeah, I did not zoom out

681
00:29:51,676 --> 00:29:55,320
and see that you had
multiple versions of this.

682
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:56,373
Got it.
Thank you.

683
00:29:57,810 --> 00:29:59,160
- Any other questions before

684
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:03,120
we set up a time to go through this?

685
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:04,410
Because just like I said,

686
00:30:04,410 --> 00:30:06,450
this is gonna be really hands-on for you

687
00:30:06,450 --> 00:30:09,191
and for you to get this
experience so you could use this

688
00:30:09,191 --> 00:30:12,000
in the future if you choose to.

689
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,050
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690
00:30:13,050 --> 00:30:15,420
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696
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697
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704
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